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Nov
16

My life in sex: ‘The chill of mortality made sex a defiant act’ – The Guardian


The Guardian

My life in sex: 'The chill of mortality made sex a defiant act'
The Guardian
We had sex when I was bald from chemo, with a drain from my armpit, with new surgical scars. The chill of mortality made sex a defiant, triumphant act. When a second, shocking tumour appeared 18 years later, I knew how fundamental that experience of …

Nov
9

My life in sex: the male survivor of childhood abuse – The Guardian


The Guardian

My life in sex: the male survivor of childhood abuse
The Guardian
Therapy helped me deal with my shame, and empathise with both my younger self and my abuser, who I've come to recognise was likely a victim of sexual abuse himself. I'm still lonely, but I haven't given up. • Each week, a reader tells us about their

Nov
2

My life in sex: the 21-year-old saving herself for marriage – The Guardian


The Guardian

My life in sex: the 21-year-old saving herself for marriage
The Guardian
I've also had my head banged against a wall by a guy I was kissing because I didn't want to go any further, and once had to keep removing the hands of a guy from going down my jeans. I don't want to engage fully in a culture that treats sex so casually

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Oct
26

Why Are We All Having So Little Sex? – TIME


TIME

Why Are We All Having So Little Sex?
TIME
When they didn't live together, they had sex every time they saw each other. After they moved in, however, he says things changed. Their sex life became inconsistent. They'd have a really active week and then a month with nothing, or just one at-bat

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Oct
19

My life in sex: ‘I’m 30 and I still find the lesbian scene excruciating’ – The Guardian


The Guardian

My life in sex: 'I'm 30 and I still find the lesbian scene excruciating'
The Guardian
I haven't had sex for two years; I would rather meet my own needs with vibrators. But I would like to meet a partner one day. For now, I am happily single, waiting until a special woman who loves me exactly as I am comes along. • Each week, a reader

Oct
12

My life in sex: ‘He rarely lasts a whole minute’ – The Guardian


The Guardian

My life in sex: 'He rarely lasts a whole minute'
The Guardian
He rarely lasts a whole minute, but, for me, the issue is not only our lack of sex. It's the crushing look of disappointment on his face as our attempts at passion dry up within seconds, leaving him to retreat into his head and berate himself for being

Oct
5

Hoaxers Slip Breastaurants and Dog-Park Sex Into Journals – New York Times


New York Times

Hoaxers Slip Breastaurants and Dog-Park Sex Into Journals
New York Times
One paper, published in a journal called Sex Roles, said that the author had conducted a two-year study involving “thematic analysis of table dialogue” to uncover the mystery of why heterosexual men like to eat at Hooters. Another, from a journal of

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Sep
28

My life in sex: I was 26 and had never shown my body to anyone – The Guardian


The Guardian

My life in sex: I was 26 and had never shown my body to anyone
The Guardian
… cutting, waxing and laser removal. I had a girlfriend in my teens, but avoided being naked. At university, my ritualistic hair removal continued, and the prospect of flirting made me anxious because of the potential of it leading to sex. I dreaded

Sep
21

My life in sex: ‘My rubber fetish has enriched my life’ – The Guardian


The Guardian

My life in sex: 'My rubber fetish has enriched my life'
The Guardian
I don't know what made me associate rubber with sex but I began masturbating with it, and ever since, my sex life has been wonderfully enhanced. As a teenager I felt abnormal, until I came across fetish magazines like AtomAge, Shiny and Smooth, filled

Sep
14

My life in sex: ‘In the 60s sexual liberation was everywhere, but I was a prude’ – The Guardian


The Guardian

My life in sex: 'In the 60s sexual liberation was everywhere, but I was a prude'
The Guardian
During the 1960s and 70s, the idea of sexual liberation was everywhere, but I remained prudish despite being fascinated by sex. Eventually, I sought therapy, which gave me a new confidence. I have been pleasantly surprised by the generosity of men I